Why I Wrote This Letter
Many of us grew up believing there was something wrong with us.
We learned to hide our needs, shrink our joy, and apologize for simply being alive.
But the truth is: you were never wrong. You were never too much.
You were simply alive — and the world didn’t know how to hold it.
Sometimes, this pain doesn’t show up as a memory.
It shows up as patterns we can’t seem to change.
For me, it showed up in my relationship with food:
eating when I wasn’t hungry, feeling out of control,
struggling to trust myself around food — and around life itself.
This letter is a promise.
A bridge back to the love you should have received from the very start.
A reminder that you were always worthy — and still are.
I originally wrote it to myself, when I finally understood the full scope of what was really behind my eating patterns.
And it hit me: I can still change this relationship — even today.
It may feel a little late, given my age.
But feeling at home in myself — not only in my body — has nothing to do with the size of my clothes or what other people think of me.
The belief that we are wrong in any way is, in my humble opinion, the root of so many problems in the world.
Not just the hate we often direct towards ourselves.
When we can change that, we have already changed the world.
This is my true opinion.
And I would love you to join me on this journey.
Dear little one,
I’m so deeply sorry for what happened to you.
You never deserved any of it.
Not the silence. Not the shame. Not the invisible walls around your spirit.You deserved love.
You deserved attention.
You deserved to be seen, heard, and held.
Without conditions. Without fear. Without the feeling that you had to change to be loved.Nothing you did was ever against them.
You weren’t too much. You weren’t too little.
You were simply alive — and that should have been celebrated.They couldn’t celebrate you.
Not because you were wrong — but because they couldn’t bear their own pain.I am so, so sorry.
You carried a weight that was never yours.
You learned to please when you should have been free.
You learned to shrink when you should have expanded.But now — I am here.
I will give you what you always deserved:
- Love without conditions
- Support without judgment
- Presence without fear
No matter how many times you think you failed.
No matter how heavy your heart feels.
No matter how impossible the path may seem —
I will love you for the rest of the time we have.Because you can never spoil a child with love.
And you, little one, deserve all of it.
If this letter speaks to you, this deeper guide explores what emotional eating is really about — and how it’s linked to safety, not willpower.
